We Don’t All Feel Love

This week I shared an article I wrote in a Facebook women’s spiritual community, called “Letting the Love in.”

A woman responded that she wasn’t able to read the article, but that she doesn’t believe we let love in.  “We are love” she explained.

It is true.   We are Love.  It is all Love.  The Divine longs to fill us with Love, it longs for us to drink that Love so that it can fill us once again. 

AND there’s times where it is really effing hard to feel that Love.  There are times where it is impossible.

In sharing that article, I mentioned how timely it was as I was grieving the death of a young friend who struggled with addiction and a system unwilling to help.

It was hard for him to feel that He was Love. It was impossible for him to feel all of the love around him.

We are human, with human physiology. 

Our brains and their thoughts are shaped by the culture we are in.

Our culture, with its racism, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, albeism, Islamophobia, classism, antisemitism and all of the other phobias and -isms against aspects of people that are both beyond their control and at the core of who they are, tells so many people that they are not worthy of love at all. 

Even if you were born into the small percentage of people deemed worthy of love by this culture, it is very clear that that love is conditional, and your ability to meet those conditions is precarious.  If you feel worthy of love, this culture ensures that you fear losing that love.

If we are so lucky to know this truth that we are Love, then we need to stop shaming people when they don’t feel Love. 

If we are so lucky to know this truth that we are Love, then we need to show others that we believe they are Love to but fighting for their rights and belonging. 

If we are so lucky to know this truth that we are Love, then we need to let that Love flow towards those who aren’t so lucky.

Shame is not Love. 

Shame is a horrible teacher.

If seeing someone unable to feel Love triggers a fear response in you, I invite you to get support around that vulnerability.  You deserve to feel this Love without fear or shame.  We all do.  

With Love (though I sometimes don’t feel it!)

Tanya